I often heard the saying “That any man can become a father by nature, but it takes a special loving father to be a Dad.” Children not only need a father that is loving, caring and compassionate but one that shows responsibility for setting the correct pattern for his child’s training, nurturing and discipline.
Read Ephesians 6:1-3- Children obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right.
Honor your father and mother “which is the first commandment with promise; that it may be well with you and you may live long on the earth.”
Verse 4 reads: And you fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord.
“To bring them up” involves a continuous job as long as the child is dependent; the father is to be responsible for providing for the child so that he becomes what God wants him to be.
Read I Timothy 5:8 But if any provide not for his-he hath denied the faith, and is worst than an infidel, unbeliever. In today’s society I believe we have a lot of father’s who fall short of this responsibility. It should be a loving job; it means literally to nourish tenderly. It involves child training; and all that he needs for his development physically, mentally and spiritually. Children need to have corrective discipline, but disciplined with love, not with fear or terror, and for the right examples to be set before them.
A misleading compass is bad- any parent that commits sin is misleading their own children and causes great harm in the family.
Sin is evil, deceitful and murderous. It is the intentional choice to think, choose, and behave contrary to the ways of God- sin and infidelity is the explanation for the disintegration of marriages and families disregard for law and order rampant sexual promiscuity, and perversion , including child abuse, incest, greediness, and abuse of alcohol and drugs. The do it yourself, anything goes individual moral codes and disintegrating personalities that are destroying our families more and more every day.
I heard a phrase one time- “Let not the child suffer for his father’s sins.” We all need to share a burden for the young people of America.
We see them searching for meaning in their lives but not finding it at home, in school, on television or Internet. So many are growing up in families that never go to church, or in broken homes where they never experience the kind of love that God intended for them. They face a rolling tide of ungodly culture, and wrong messages of sex and pleasure.
As parents and grandparents we need to do all we can to encourage our youth, and pray for them at all times.
Even the Lord prayed before his crucifixion- read John 17:1-5 Christ prayed for himself, and then verses 6-19. He prayed for his Disciples. “And for their sake I sanctify myself that they also may be sanctified by the truth.
Sometimes when praying for our children, we need to pray “Lord you take care of them. I need to settle some things in my own life with you.”
It is unrealistic to ask the Lord to do in someone else’s life that which we are unwilling for Him to do in ours.
Repentance and sanctification is necessary. When we are willing to do that, peace will come. Our hope and faith comes by keeping the Lord in our hearts.
We are saved by grace; not by good works, but when we come to the end of our earthly life, we will not regret the good works we have done. If anything, we will regret having not done more. Good works testify our love for Christ and His saving grace in our lives.
In most cases the mother has to be the most nurturing parent to the children. But it is a lonely thing when you hear children brag about a father that shows genuine love and concern, and they have great relationships with their wonderful Dad’s. I thank God for all the wonderful, loving, compassionate dads out there that really do make a difference in their child’s life by being there for them in all the things that matter most to them.
As in I Timothy 11-12 Dad’s-I encourage you to follow-after righteousness, godliness, faith, love, patience, meekness.
Fight the good fight of faith, lay hold of eternal life, whereunto thou art also called, and hast professed a good profession before many witnesses.
What kind of dad are you?
When you come to the end of life’s journey how will you be missed?
Will your children grieve because they have lost a loving dad that will be greatly missed or will they grieve because they never had a dad to love them, or show concern, and only remember neglect and abuse. What kind of memories will you leave with them? “Don’t leave behind an unfinished task.”
To all the wonderful dad’s out there-including my sons and son-in-laws that amaze me in so many ways; I want to wish all of you a wonderful and Happy Father’s Day-from my heart.