If you had to do it again would you?

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By JE Bolton

What kinds of things would make you happy?

Would it be eternal wisdom, fame and fortune, eternal youth? Well, I’m sure all of our responses are unanimous when it comes to eternal youth. There’s nothing like remembering every week on grandma and grandpa’s farm where you would help grandma with supper as grandpa would take you strawberry hunting in his garden. His rule was always what you picked was what you got to eat later on.  

Also, it’s especially wonderful, as a parent to hear your child call you “mama” or “dada” for the first time.

You begin swearing that you will never miss one moment of your child’s upbringing. It’s priceless!    

However, I’m sad to say there’s a flipside to these things. What if Christmas was the only time you got to visit those grandparents? Also, what if you were caught up in the everyday routine of things that your child was grown and married before you even realized they were even out of diapers?   

What if you got just one more chance to settle unfinished business, would you? I’m sure all of us, without hesitation, would do some things differently if we were given the chance. Perhaps we would live for the moment instead of committing the heinous act of procrastination.   

When I was little, it felt like things would last forever.

I remember when catching fireflies with my sisters and cousins seemed to last forever. Now that I’m grown, it’s as if things like that are too time consuming to even attempt.

Does time and age make use harder in attitude as well as more apt to making excuses not to do the things that make us happy in the end? Perhaps, we have simply grow accustomed to setting in our ways so much that we’re slightly stubborn to the idea of change in any form.  

However, since we don’t have the luxury of going back to certain times in our lives, there is but one solution- give the emotional flowers to the living instead of letting time slip through your hands as those you think will last forever automatically move on or become deceased.  

Call a relative or friend up that you haven’t talked to in a while and tell them “I love you” or “I was just calling to see how you were doing.” Then, take that same person you’ve not seen in a while out to lunch or simply catch up on old times.  

Spend time with your children, even if it’s no more than 20 to 30 minutes a day.  In fact, why not take it a step further, go to your local nursing home or hospital, and take a vase full of fresh flowers to someone who never receives any visitors. Also, visit a local school or church and inquire about being a mentor to a child who has nobody.  

If you’ve never lived in the moment, now’s your chance to love, and to learn that life is only what we make of it. Don’t wait until it’s too late to allow grandpa to give you one last piece of hard candy, and grandma to kiss you on the cheek. Also, don’t allow procrastination to prevent you from making that final mudpie with your little one before mudpies become things of the past.